If you are concerned about a family member or a friend:

• approach them
• ask open questions
• don’t judge
• offer support

Remember:

• Mood swings are more likely to be part of the disorder and not the person
• Be aware: the sooner a person gets professional help, the better
• Don’t give up and don’t take negative responses personally
• Be aware of the different types of eating disorders
• Don’t make it about food or weight
• Don’t mention weight loss
• Don’t walk on eggshells
• Be honest
• Eating disorders are very complex, in order to look after someone else make sure you look after yourself

Your family member/ friend may be in pre-contemplation stage with regard to the eating disorder.  It could feel as if you are at odds with one another as you push for change and they pull back from help.  The Beat website has a whole section on supporting someone that will help you feel less alone in this endeavour.  You need help too and contacting BEAT or looking at their online resources might be the right next step. 

https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/supporting-someone